Yesterday was one of those days, that I don't want to revisit. The tension between myself and one of our children had been building. She wanted to spend all of her time with friends. She didn't want to discuss school and mysteriously never had homework....
I admit to being a rather conservative parent. We have created a home where our three children are supported and basically have to do well in school , be respectful, volunteer and enjoy life. They are expected to do minimal house stuff and get to take part in sports and other great opportunities...
We also raise our children with trust. If they say they have an A, I believe them. Recently I was not feeling good about some of the choices being made by the above mentioned child. Last week she wrote a contract, I signed it. We were moving on. I still didn't feel great about everything, but I felt it was a step in the right direction. This contract was followed by parent teacher conferences ... She had two grades that were a surprise to me.
I found myself in a very unhappy place. She has a sporting event out of state coming up. I am the only parent that is opting to travel as a chaperone. It's a small group so one parent is sufficient. If I decided she could not go, that would effect her team. If I didn't go, that would effect the other families. Not to mention the trip is payed for etc...
The unraveling of our bliss that had begun weeks ago, spiraled into an afternoon of yelling , tears and threats. Plus she had an event that night...
The good thing is... everything was out in the open. We are starting with a clean slate. We have a plan and restrictions are in place. Am I happy we both had to experience an afternoon of drama? No. But I'm aware it is a memorable time of our relationship. We are still both traveling. She must stay in my room , not with her friends. She also gets to do hours of homework with me daily. She only gets to join her friends in Disney, if the grades are up... She made a plan with both teachers, so I am looking at it as a learning experience. Many other issues were discussed.
What spiraled out of control was shattered by the emotions of us both. We are learning how to live together in our new roles. She has a role as a teenager experiencing life... My role is that of a mother of three attempting peace and balance...... This is why I enjoy coaching people on family issues. I understand. I have been there.
I also understand why intuitive readings can be so helpful. When you are spiraling out of control it is not so easy to step back and find clarity. When it is difficult to connect with peace on your own, that is when a reading is awesome!
Much peace and clarity to you and yours,